me: thank you for the birthday wishes
9:15 PM Skywomanrose: happy birthday
( =
I’m probably not the first
but it would be cool to be the first
me: you are the first
Skywomanrose: yeah ( =
I hope you have the most awesome birthday in the world!
I wrote some decent blogs today.
me: thank you
Skywomanrose: you should read it when you get a chance
me: i’ll go look
9:18 PM beautiful writing. want me to add you to my blogroll?
Skywomanrose: sure
i added more to my how to lose a guy blog
9:19 PM i’m so insightful
it cracks me up in my cheese factor
9:20 PM me: let me go look silly
9:23 PM i looked at my stats
9:24 PM my blog received 35x as many visitors as the best day previously yesterday
Skywomanrose: yeah well… think about it
new information
shocking
sad
provoking
9:25 PM it’s real
me: yeah
makes sense
Skywomanrose: people respond to what is real
me: true
9:29 PM do u think i should rewrite my blog on Fred and clean it up?
9:31 PM Skywomanrose: no
just leave it
people are going to it for comfort
9:32 PM but I would do something with it afterwards…
not really sure what
you should prob ask the family what they’d be comfortable with
me: i did
Skywomanrose: you’re not a news publication
well
me: they didn’t say anything
Skywomanrose: then just respect whatever their wishes may be
aw.
i c
me: good call
Skywomanrose: well…
9:33 PM allow people to greive
but don’t make your site focus on mourning him either
me: how do you mean?
Skywomanrose: the whole thing about death and dying, is to celebrate their life
9:34 PM me: right now my blog is #1 for his name
Skywomanrose: He would not want people who cared about him to be miserable and dwel
me: yeah
i glaze way over the details
Skywomanrose: so, since you are not a new publication, keep it on the human perspective…
me: want to see what i wrote originally before i took it down?
Skywomanrose: he lived is more important that he died
me: ok
yeah
Skywomanrose: you know what i mean?
me: yeah
9:35 PM you are smarter at this stuff than me
Skywomanrose: he was so important to these other people..he made such a huge impact on the lives of others…
i’ve dealt with this kind of thing before
my dad
my grandma
soldiers
i knew a kid in high school who hung himself
9:36 PM i have had a few family members die
me: yeah… what do u think i should do different, anything?
Skywomanrose: and i know my grandparents are not going to be around much longer
right now…
i don’t think you need to do anything
make sure you ask first before posting info about a memorial
they may not want the additional attention
9:37 PM me: ok
Skywomanrose: they may need help raising money for burial, b/c he was so young
you should ask
he probably doesn’t have insurance
life insurance
you can offer to post directions as to where people can contribute to the burial costs (but not in those words)
9:38 PM me: i dont even know how to approach asking that
Skywomanrose: it looks like you took on the role to provide info
me: his family is pretty wealthy too
Skywomanrose: well…..
me: it might be insulting
Skywomanrose: then you probably don’t need to then
i assumed b/c he was young and just out of school
that he didn’t have life insurance to cover such things
9:39 PM me: i’m sure he didnt
but i think his family did well.
how would i ask?
Skywomanrose: you probably don’t need to.
9:40 PM you can always let them know, if they need any assistance getting information out, you are there.
and leave the ball in their court
that way you’re not pushy
me: i sent his bro a text message letting them know i would add, change or delete anything they wished
Skywomanrose: if they read your blog, they’ll see your intentions are good.
then you are fine
9:45 PM me: thats true
thanks
9:46 PM Skywomanrose: but I wouldn’t keep it at the top of your blog forever
let console people and inform people for awhile
but soon enough, like them, you gotta let it go.
9:47 PM me: how long?
9:48 PM Skywomanrose: don’t know
that’s for you to decide
me: i dont know
till after the wake (next week)
9:49 PM that sound good?
9:50 PM Skywomanrose: i think so…
maybe a week after the wake
then back to normal
me: ok
brb, gonna mix up some comfort food
made myself a monster mozza salad
9:52 PM Skywomanrose: lol
some comfort food
9:55 PM me: back
Skywomanrose: i am not hungry at all
my aunt made me eat
booo
but i didn’t eat much
anyhow
plus i was full from that crap you made me eat earlier
my aunt thought i was fired when i got home
9:56 PM me: aww… what’d she say?
Skywomanrose: i told her i didn’t think they’d fire me if I tried really hard to get fired
b/c i showed up to April’s just a couple minutes after she showed up
and i felt like i owed her an explanation
9:57 PM but she was fine with it
me: yeah
Skywomanrose: she wasn’t mad at all
me: why should she be mad?
what’d u tell her?
she is family, i’m sure she’ll be supportive of you right now
9:59 PM how are you doing?
Skywomanrose: i am fine
i told her that you and i had decided not to date anymore
and this time for sure
10:00 PM then i cried, and was like, ok fine he decided it
me: oh Skywoman, you didn’t have to say that. i’m sorry
Skywomanrose: and then i told her you were a retard and that I was the one who kept telling you we should stop and that you were finally aggreeing with me
10:01 PM and of course i told her it was the right thing to do, it was practical
that we still care about each other alot
and that we just had to go our separate ways
blah blah you know
so
me: what’d she say? just listen?
Skywomanrose: apparently my mouth can’t stop when i’m crying
10:02 PM oh she was nice about it of course
saying of oourse i’ll be fine
it happens
blah
very understanding
while i was crying like a bafoon
me: that’s good
not that you were crying, but that she was nice and understanding
10:03 PM Skywomanrose: ah
it’s fine
get it out
get over it
move on
me: you guys just talk about that?
10:04 PM i’m glad you had someone to comfort you
10:06 PM Skywomanrose: yeah
it’s fine
how are you
better?
me: i cried on my way home and felt terrible
Skywomanrose: aw
sorry
10:07 PM do you always cry you dork
me: now i have my comfort salad though
no
Skywomanrose: ah
sorry
me: not before
with tower it was different
i messed up and she didn’t want to see me anymore
i cried then
Skywomanrose: lol
dork
so you did cry
me: that was the only other time i have cried when someone and i broke up
10:08 PM Skywomanrose: i don’t always cry
but..
i suppose i’ve cried a bunch when i get hurt
but then again
i am chic
me: it’s good to let your feelings out
yeah
Skywomanrose: and it’s expected of me
me: i am the female of the relationship
10:09 PM Skywomanrose: i think we were both the chics
so we were lezzies
though you are more butch
me: haha
Skywomanrose: i was the lipstick lez
lol
me: we are ridiculous
Skywomanrose: i totally get off and men and women finding me attractiv
e
it’s kinda cool
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me: lol
Skywomanrose: i need to go
gotta get some rest
me: ok
Skywomanrose: take care of yourself
me: have a good night
Skywomanrose: see you at work
me: thanks
see you tomorrow
Skywomanrose: laters gators
me: bye